What is Gentleness
Gentleness is an action of compassion to those who are weak and frail physically or spiritually. The best evidence of gentleness in the Bible is found in God. God the ultimate power, shows gentleness with humankind. God has the power to crush, but He allows cares for us like baby animals (Isaiah 40: 10 - 11).
Because God is gentle with us, we are also gentle with each other (Philippians 4:5). We may have great worldly power, as a Christian, I should be gentle to those who are weaker and frailer than me.
Gentleness Toward Our Families
In the family situation, the weaker are the children. Our children need to have a gentle upbringing, so they can have the best chance in becoming spiritual champions.
First, in the educational upbringing. Children ask questions, and they could ask around a hundred questions each day. As parents, it is our job to answer those questions with a gentleness (Proverbs 15:1). A gentle answer will help your child has less anger and more of a chance of learning than one with anger.
Gentleness in educational upbringing is important, but spiritual upbringing is where the Christian parent must always show gentleness. When our kids make mistakes, we must be able to correct the mistake in gentleness (Galatians 6:1). If you speak angrily at them, it won’t help the situation because it might cause you to sin in the process.
Another part up of gentleness in teaching spirituality is the ability to tell about our hope and faith in a gentle response (1 Peter 3:15). Some people think we need to have an answer for every question in the Bible, but that is unnecessary. It’s good to have answers for life’s tough questions, but to speak about hope and faith, we need to speak and act in a gentle matter of why we have hope and faith in the Lord. As parents, this is a crucial step of bringing up your children in the Lord. If they see faith in a militant way, they will have no faith or their faith will be contradictory to scripture.
As a Christian parent, our reaction could be of making their faith stronger or be a hindrance. I know its hard and something that fail almost every day at some point. As the stronger Christian, I need to practice being gentle because its grows my faith, but also helps the weak become stronger.
What is Joy?
Joy that is found in the Bible is a state of delight and well being that comes from knowing and serving God.1 It isn’t something that is accomplished by our own means, but through what God has done for us, which is the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. (Luke 24: 50 - 52)
As Christians, this is where our joy comes from, but the unsaved can find joy in the consistent open door of salvation (Luke 15). The unsaved, may not know they are lost, eventually they have the opportunity to be saved. And when they become saved, we have joy with the angels and God.
Way to Show Joy to your Family.
Christians should always have joy in their life (Philippians 4:14). If we believe in the resurrection, then our life should be joyful, and it should be in outward appearance and actions. Christians should not be negative and ungrateful people because it is contrary to our faith. If you have no joy, you have no faith because your joy is a sign of your faith, even during a tough time (1 Peter 1: 6 - 8). Because our joy is founded in the resurrection, we know this life is temporary. We are merely on vacation, waiting for our time to go home. Having that knowledge, we treat every day with joy no matter what happens throughout the day. We should always have joy.
When it comes to building faith in our families, joy is an important value to have in our life. If you are miserable, then you are showing your family unfaithfulness to God. Imagine if you are trying to tell others about a great new product that you love, but every time you have the product, you are talking about all its problems. Would your friends or families want that product? If they are smart, then they wouldn’t because they find no need for another thing in their life that has problems. If you are Christian, you should have joy always.
When it comes to your family, you are with them the most in your life. You could pretend to be joyful at work, but your family will know if your faith is real by the joy you show at home. To be the best witness of God to your family, then be joyful.
Dean, Robert J. “Joy.” Ed. Chad Brand et al. Holman Illustrated Bible Dictionary 2003 : 956. Print. ↩
What is Patience
Patience is an active restraint, which means that patience is not something that is passive or something that just happens. It is something that takes continual work. It is a quality that we must choice to do everyday. Patience is similar to a muscle; a muscle can only become stronger if used daily. When your patience is tested, it has the potential of growing stronger. But if you choose not to be patient, than it becomes weaker.
Patience also has no time table. Somethings God tells us to be patient, and it could be for your whole life. God just tells us to be patient, without any knowledge of when it needs to stop.
Ways To Show Patience
First, the Father is patient with us, so we must be patient to our family. The Father’s patience is evident with us because of failures to live a godly life daily. 2 Peter 3: 9 - 10, talks about God’s patience of the second coming. He doesn’t want anyone to perish during judgment day, so he waits patiently for us.
As a parent, our children will disappoint us over and over again with their decisions. It may seem like they are never going to learn from their mistakes, but we need to be patient and continue to teach them godliness. They may never get it, but that doesn’t mean we give up. We must be patient with them, and never give up because our Father didn’t give up on you.
We also need to show patience at all times. Best time to practice patience is when you are not with your family. When you are at work think of it like practice before a game. So when a co-worker is driving you crazy, practice restraint. So when your children are driving you crazy, you are able to have stronger patience because you practiced.
Always remember your family is the most important thing in this world, and you need to give them your best. If you are being patient with everyone else, but not with your family, you are hurting their chances of growing in patience themselves. You be the best example for your family.
What is Kindness
Kindness is an essential element of many religions, and it is no difference in Christianity. Kindness describes a range of qualities, like goodness, generosity, graciousness, and compassion.
Kindness is also part of God’s character (Titus 3:4), so it also needs to be part of our character. Showing kindness is also a great example of what a saved person acts like. Matthew 25: 31 - 46, Jesus tells a parable of those who are saved and those who are not. The people who showed kindness to others was evidence of those who are saved and the ones who didn’t perish.
Ways To Show Kindness
First, remember to show kindness toward your family for good deeds (Genesis 40:14). Taking your child for a special outing is an easy and a good way to show kindness. Good deeds doesn’t need be rewarded right away, but ignoring them is counterintuitive of promoting kindness.
Finally, we can show kindness to our loved one’s guests (Genesis 19: 1 - 3). You never know the effect you can have on the lives of your family and their friends by showing kindness to them. I know because I was once a punk kid, whose friend’s parents showed God to me through their actions. I probably was hard to live with, but they remained a great of example of God’s kindness toward me and it changed my life forever.
With our families, kindness should be evident in our lives. It is a great virtue to have and one of the greatest examples of God.
What is Love
“Love” in the English language is not only generic, but also subjective. The generic concept of love is that love is something that is unselfish and loyal toward something or someone. The Bible speaks of love that is godly, that has a deeper meaning. So when I am speaking of “love,” I am going to be talking the most general form of love in the Bible which is agape. Agape love is the idea that God is the source and the instigator of love.
As a Christian, the greatest source of love starts with loving God. 1 John 3: 16 explains that a Christian knows love because of Jesus Christ sacrifice. We can’t show godly love, without God. God being the primary of our love involves us instigating love to our family and friends.
Way’s To Show Love
1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 8a gives a plethora of examples of the characteristics of love.
First, love is unselfish. In verse 4 - 5, Paul talks about love not being boastful, proud and self-seeking. I love my kids, not for my personal gain, but because I care for them. I didn’t have children so my child can be famous. I do not live my personal fantasies through my child’s life. My love for them is not about me.
Second, love is constant. In verses, 7 - 8a, he speaks of love always protects, trusts, hopes, preserves, and it never fails. Love is constant.
This idea is contradictory toward the love that floats around our country today. Love in the U.S.A is pathetic and weak. You hear people talking about “falling” out of love. That love is not in the Bible because biblical love is constant and fail-proof.
Finally, love is about bringing truth. If we have faith in God, we should be the greatest promoters of God’s kingdom for them. We want them to have a strong faith, and to love God themselves. How sad to see so many people reject Christ, because of their parents faith. That should never be the case. A child should never lose faith, because of their parents faith.
With our families, we love them unselfishly, and constantly so they can believe in the truth. Showing that biblical love, will make a godly family.
We have been looking at ways to build godliness in our lives, so we can build godliness in the lives of our family. Last post was about building honesty, this post is how to build compassion.
What is Compassion?
Compassion is a behavior where pity is shown to an individual.
“Isn’t pity a bad thing?” is a question that may have popped in your head.
This a hard question without a simple answer, because pity can be considered bad, but also good. Pity is bad, when we treat people as inferior. Treating others inferior is wrong and unbiblical. The Bible does condone the attitude of inferiority, instead it notes that everyone is the same. We are all as one in Christ. (Galatians 3: 28)
A good example of pity is found in Acts 2: 44 - 45
All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need.
Rich believers found pity on the poor, so they sold their possessions so that all would be common.
The early church shared with each, because they had pity on the poor and showed compassion.
Way’s To Show Compassion To Your Family
First, we show pity to our children’s future. In Exodus 2:6, we see Pharaoh’s daughter having compassion for a baby who should be killed. Rather, the Pharaoh’s daughter showed pity toward baby Moses, and he was able to live a full life. Our children may not be in a life or death situation, but we need to that same compassion for our children’s future. We can’t predict the future. We don’t know if they will live in times of peace or war. We don’t know, but we should care that we provide the best future for them. So we need to have compassion for their future.
Second, we need to have compassion for their mistakes. In Luke 15: 11 - 32 (Parable of the Lost Son), the son makes a poor decision. The father could have disowned his son or even make him earn back the money the son lost. Instead, the father showed compassion on the child when he returns back home. Our children will make mistakes, and we will be disappointed by their choices, but we can show compassion and help them learn from their mistakes.
Lastly, we need to show compassion to our children for their ignorance. In Luke 23: 34, Jesus shows compassion to his accusers, because of their ignorance. There is no way, for a parent to teach their children everything in this world to be fully competent. Ignorance will pop-up many times in their life, so when ignorance is shown; we need to give them compassion.
Side Note: When I refer to compassion, I do not mean enabling bad behavior. For example, we show compassion for errors, but a parent should never allow their children to think that making the mistake was a good action. Do not enable bad behavior and take those mistakes as teachable moments to help correct the behavior.
Next topic is building love.